Whether you’re new to the 20’s club or those years are long behind you, this time frame in any woman’s life has the biggest learning curve. Here are the 20 things you should learn in your twenties.
1. You won’t get what you don’t ask for.
If you find yourself stuck without a ride, without a job, or without rent, ask! Ask your friend, an old colleague, a family member, or negotiate with your landlord. The worst thing they can say is ‘No.’
2. Your college major probably won’t define your career.
Just because you’re paying off your art school debt, doesn’t mean that you have to find a job in a creative field to pay it off. Dont’ be afraid to try something new and gain new skills.
3. Moisturizer is SO important.
Skincare is no joke in your 20’s. You may start your 20’s off with a bang, drinking (legally, finally) but sleeping on your friend’s couch with a full face of makeup will take a serious toll. If you can’t afford to do much else, just remember to moisturize, moisturize, moisturize!
4. Your metabolism will slow down. It will.
Your pre and late-teens (if you’re lucky) was a time engorged with junk food and bloated with fizzy drinks, and you never gained a pound. Welcome to your 20’s where that bag of chips goes into your mouth and takes up residence on your tummy.
5. Exercise regularly.
Whether you’re into going to the gym or not, a brisk walk each day will do you some good. Coaxing your metabolism into waking it’s lazy butt up is all you need to do to stay somewhat healthy.
6. Being alone is OK.
If stress is one of the biggest causes of wrinkles and aging, then get rid of whatever in your life is stressing you out! Get rid of those fairweather friends and spend time alone to collect yourself and tend to your needs.
7. There’s no excuse for your crappy relationship anymore.
If you feel like you’re banging your head against the wall in your relationship even once per week, it’s time to let it go. You’re in your prime, so live it up!
8. Free drinks are overrated.
Free anything is fine and well, but when you have to wake up the next day for work and it’s last call, say No Thank You! It’s not worth the even worse hangover and definitely not worth the bad decisions that will ensue.
9. So is Vegas.
Vegas sounds like a great time. Spring Break! Buy a ticket to just about anywhere else and leave Vegas right where it is with all of its bad tattoos and oddly convenient nuptials.
10. You are not the center of the universe. Oprah is.
Okay, maybe she isn’t, but you aren’t the center, and you’ll discover you need to treat others with the same respect you think you deserve. Be polite, because manners go a long way.
11. Travel is always worth it.
If you’re given the opportunity to, travel the world! There’s so much to see, experience and become a part of.
12. It’s totally OK (and very healthy) to say “No.”
You started a new job, met some new friends, started dating someone new…So you think the pressure is on to please everyone around you to get ahead in life. No. Use that word as much as you see fit, because if you aren’t in the mood, you won’t be good company. Try it. It feels pretty good.
13. Cooking is a life skill, not a talent.
Learn to cook some of your favorite dishes, and once you’re comfortable, try to switch it up. You’ll save money, likely eat healthier (I mean, who even owns a deep fryer?) and be totally proud of your new sweet skills.
14. Go to the doctor. Seriously.
Your yearly exam notices come through from your doctor and you’re thinking “whoa, I was definitely just here. WHY do I need to go back? I feel just fine!” Well, you know what’s even more annoying than being surrounded by agitated old people sighs in a waiting room? BEING SICK AND WEBMD DIDN’T CATCH IT.
15. Saving money is hard, but it must be done.
You’re not getting any younger and I’m sure your fallback (parents, elders, family) isn’t either. To start, build up a rainy day fund. Save around $20-$50 per paycheck and within a year you’ll see a good cushion of money to take yourself on vacation or pay bills if you find yourself unemployed.
16. Honesty is key.
We’re not saying be blunt and cutthroat, but show concern to friends, and be forthcoming about your strengths. It’s what they deserve, and seriously empowering.
17. You will lose friends, but you’ll gain better ones.
It always hurts when you lose a friend you grew up with, roomed in college with, or went through an odd phase with, but as we learn and mature, some of those friends aren’t built for the same path you need to take.
18. Your job may just serve the purpose to pay your bills.
Not everyone finds their dream job right away, but we still need to make enough money to (ugh) pay rent. So long as you have a fun hobby, you should be able to bide your time until something better comes along.
19. You are awesome.
Your 20’s will be a strange time. Your super irresponsible, naive self is tossed into a crazy learning curve and you may doubt yourself. Always remember: You are awesome!
20. Fake it ’til you make it!
This lends itself to your obvious awesomeness. You’re young, hungry and excited for what’s ahead – so fake it ’til you make it! No one’s born a pro at anything.
What else do you think you’ll learn in your 20’s? If you’re past your 20’s, what piece of advice would you share? Dish it out in a comment below!