How many times have you sat by the phone waiting for a guy to call? Maybe you’re dating him? Maybe you’ve just hooked up? Nonetheless, you’re invested and you can’t do anything else except dwell on the fact that he hasn’t texted you back in 2 hours 32 minutes and 17 seconds. AHHH!

Naturally, you will make excuses for him; because we always try to make ourselves feel better in the end right? But the truth is, you will never know until he tells you. So then he may be lying… Stop torturing yourself. Here are 7 awful reasons why he didn’t text you back.


1. You Get What you Give…

This timeless phrase applies to everything, especially when it comes to relationships! Whether it’s engaging in a new relationship and/or maintaining an old one, you must ask yourself, “Does this guy know that I’m really interested or am I sending the wrong signals? Listen, guys are kinda dumb, so it’s it’s entirely possible that he may have the impression that you’re not into him, so he’s trying to back off so he doesn’t bug you. Be honest, upfront and confident. You will be surprised how far you get.


2. Bad Timing

The timing isn’t right. Typically, if he falls off the face of the earth after the two of you had an amazing time on the first three dates, it’s safe to assume that this has NOTHING to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with bad timing. It’s a hard excuse to hear, but it very well can be true. Try your best to see the signs before investing your time.


3. The Preemptive Strike

“So you’re saying he didn’t think I was interesting or sexy? I don’t get it…”

You thought you had an intellectual conversation and a steamy nightcap…. Guess not? Basically, you may be boring. Ughh That’s awful to hear. No one wants to hear that about him or herself, especially when it comes to dealing with sex & dating!

The truth is some guys just get bored. There’s no back end story associated with you and why you happen to be so lame; you’re just plain dull.

Of course not all guys think the same way, but then again not all girls do either. If you’re reading this and you THINK you may be him/her, I would suggest looking up “Ghosting.”


4. You’re Not Official Yet.

Word to the wise: If you don’t want to make a fool of yourself, you better slow down.

First off, just because you two had an amazing first date at Central Park and your second date was dinner for two in the West Village doesn’t mean you’re destined for the altar, and he isn’t necessarily destined to text you back…


5. Hit It & Quit It

This is the worst and most common phrase that singles come in contact with. If you don’t know what I’m referring to, then you either have no sexual life or are oblivious to any of the signs. In that case, keep reading.

However, if you find yourself sexually involved with someone one night and then the following night they mysteriously vanish, then you would be a victim of “Hit & Quit It.”

This type of guy is not interested in the monotonous “had such a great time” or “let’s meet up” texts. If you would like to save yourself heartache and embarrassment, read between the lines and don’t text him back.


6. Three’s Company

If you have to question whether or not you may not be the only person in his life, then you’re suspicious assumptions are more than likely on the right track.

You might consider yourself someone that likes the exclusive type of a relationship…that’s great! Well, he’s not. Unfortunately a majority of eligible bachelors fall into the same category. Over time, if he hasn’t expressed that you may be “the one,” then don’t bother putting all of your cards on the table, because you might lose a pretty valuable hand in the end….


7. Growing Pains…

Everyone has experienced the ‘……’ Yes, that’s the symbol for silence.

If you’re dating someone and they leave you with silence, naturally, one would think, “He doesn’t like me,” “He’s dating someone else”, or “I was awful in bed.”

Guess what?! You’re more than likely right, and that seriously sucks.

His silence is a clear answer: He’s not for you. It’s not your fault he’s still growing up. Keep it moving girlfriend!


Author: Ashley Kaylor, Follow Ashley on Twitter!