So you meet a guy with insane good looks and a decent sense of style who always knows the right things to say. Ugh! The type of dude who texts you the perfect texts and knows the perfect emoji/actual text ratio, and you spend minutes just drafting the perfect response. Then, after you spend hours analyzing his social media accounts, you decide to go on a ‘real’ date. Well, instead of wasting your time and countless hours getting to know him: here are the 8 ways to tell if he’s just trying to hook up.
1. He talks about himself all. the. time.
The guy cannot let you get a word in edgewise. Everything you mention about yourself, your job, your passions, he always seems to turn the focus back onto himself.
2. He’s there…but not.
He isn’t really there when you’re hanging out. His mind is in another place – and by place we mean on Tinder and swiping through butt pics in his Instagram DM.
3. He takes advantage.
Instead of picking you up, you find yourself meeting him at a restaurant or bar. He expects you to always go out of your way and schedule your life around him.
4. You’re always compromising.
When you get into a new relationship, or even a weekly dating schedule, everything should be 50/50. This guy tends to only want to hang out at his favorite spots or include his friends instead of yours.
5. He crosses the line.
So some of us may have stricter boundaries than others, but if he tries to kiss you and talk to dirty to you on the first date, that’s a red flag.
6. He isn’t that friendly.
Even though you’ve probably met some of his friends, he isn’t ready and willing to meet yours. This is likely because his friends know he’s a player, and your girlfriends are on a mission to start analyzing him as ‘worthy boyfriend material’.
7. He texts at his convenience.
He only seems to text or call you when he’s bored or not occupied by his friends. This ranges from the mid-workday ‘hello’ with little to no follow up, to the 3am ‘what’s up’ booty call situation.
8. He tries to get the deets.
When he should be getting to know your personality and thoughts about relationships, he really just wants to know every detail he can get out of you about your sex life and bedroom tendencies.
Hey, if you’re looking for something on the casual side, this guide definitely isn’t for you and keep doing your thang, girl.
Have you experienced this before? (Actually, who hasn’t?) What did you do when you figured out his game?