Ghosting is a dating phenomenon in this day in age, and no one wants to be ghosted, but hey, it happens. Ghosting is the action of literally taking no action in ending a relationship. Whether the person ghosting blocks, ignores or completely cuts off the other person in the platonic or romantic relationship without any explanation. Being ghosted by someone is the absolute worst. So here’s how to deal with those ugly ghosts and come out on top.
Recognize You’ve Been Ghosted
You went on more than one date with the guy and you seem to have instant chemistry. He’s been texting you for a few days since your last date, and then, POOF. Dude’s gone and the ghosting is apparent. But it’s not always that obvious! Which leads us to…
Make Sure It’s Real
He hasn’t texted you in two days, but up until his sudden drop off, he would text you throughout the evening. If you aren’t sure, just reach out. Did you freak him out? Text him to make sure everything’s still cool between you two.
Call Them Out
At this point, he hasn’t answered your last text of ‘hoping all is well on his end,’ and you’d like to meet up again. Anxiety begins. Give it a day or two, but there’s no harm in calling him out. Maybe he won’t respond but at least he’ll know you’re not completely oblivious and that you value your time!
Accept that he has ghosted you, and make sure to stop contacting him altogether. If he posts something on social media, don’t throw shade. It’s probably a good time to go ahead and delete or unfollow the ghost.
Don’t Stalk From Afar
So you’re not the type to rip off the band-aid and rule his existence out altogether? Don’t torture yourself even more by hunting his new main squeeze on social, or haunting him with a strategic ‘like’ on one of his unfortunately sad Facebook posts. That just makes you look like the bad guy in the situation.
Delete Everything Related To Them
Have some really cute pictures of him in your photo album? Did you (sadly) waste an Instagram post on him? Before people start asking who that dude is, and before your photo album gets too full, just delete it all. And most importantly, delete his number.
It’s Not About You: Don’t Blame Yourself
He didn’t ghost you because you’re you. For example: if you drunkenly proposed to him on the second date, he should chalk it up to alcohol and have a laugh with you about it the next day. It’s not you, it’s him.
Focus On You
You’re the most important person in your life. (Because you’re fabulous.) Let’s keep it that way.
Be HAPPY They’re Gone
Whether or not he wanted a relationship, someone who ghosts is likely to do the same to people in his life who supposedly matter to him. You don’t need anyone like that in your world and you seriously dodged a bullet on this one. DRINK TO THAT!
…And If He Decides To Show Up Later
Do not. We repeat. Do NOT give him the time of day. If ghosting weren’t bad enough, he didn’t even realize the fault of his actions and how they affected you! You’re way better than that. On to the next!
Is there anything else you would add to help others recover from being ghosted? Share your advice in a comment below!